Some Suggestions on Mirror
A month or so ago (the car's about two months old), I got this feature to work. Here are some notes, as I remember them (but, alas, I don't recall exactly what I did):
1) With the engine running, the car in reverse, and the brake on (all as I recall), adjust the mirror ... but do NOT press Set on the door panel (and I haven't used the fob for any memory functions, either).
Somehow, the system knows this reverse-mirror position is for the reverse function only, without officially memorizing it. When you're done reversing, i.e., you put the car in drive, the mirror goes back to its normal memorized, forward-driving, position (over the course of the next few seconds while driving forward).
So, the big trick for me was to NOT memorize the mirror position while in reverse. This has worked fine for me ever since -- i.e., when reversing, the mirror changes to its reverse position. (I had earlier, before talking about this with a service tech at the dealership, used memory after positioning the mirror in reverse, and managed to get the mirror to point toward the sky, after shifting to reverse.)
2) In normal (forward) driving, I keep the mirrors positioned pretty far "outward." When setting the right mirror while in reverse, it would not go down as far as I wanted it, because it was positioned so far outward.
What I had to do -- during this positioning for reverse -- was also move the mirror inward ... and then downward. That is, moving it inward allowed the mirror to also be positioned downward more (than it could be positioned while it was very far outward).
So, now, when I put the car in reverse, the mirror automatically moves both inward and downward, enabling me to see the right-side curb. (And then, when going forward again, in drive, the mirror repositions itself in the normal memorized mode, i.e., both farther up and farther outward.)
That's what I remember, anyway, and I hope this helps out those still having difficulty with this.
And then I went through this entire procedure again, using my wife's fob, and making sure that before I started all this I pressed her number (1 -- I'm
#2 ) on the door panel.